Today’s picture is something you have done in memory of your child like a tattoo or a piece of jewellery etc…
I considered a tattoo for a hot second to commemorate Kadin’s short life but tattoos are just not for me, I change my mind a lot and while I may LOVE something today I quickly hate it tomorrow and tattoos are very permanent. Once I really thought about it I realized that Kadin had left a very big, very permanent scar on my body, the c-section scar was the true memory of him, it told his story better than a foot print with his name under it ever could.
Funny/weird story about jewellery……when we meet with the funeral coordinator in order to pick out babies’ urn (the most surreal moment in my life) she gave us two catalogs; one with the “baby urn section” and one all about jewellery. I sat there staring at her as she gave me the sales pitch for a set that included earrings, a ring and a necklace and in each piece I could have some of Kadin’s ashes put into it. All I could think was, what piece of him would be in the ring? a toe? an arm? what if I lost it? what if I lost a part of my son! the second she left the room I looked at Pat and he said ” I don’t want any fucking jewellery! I don’t want our son in pieces!” I agreed. I think it’s good to have these options as some people find comfort in “wearing” their loved one, but it was not for us.
I still wanted something, nothing that screamed “remembrance jewellery” again not for me. November 2012 Pat and I were walking browsing some cute store when I went into a local store called Sterling, click here for some amazing picture of the store (I welcome presents from here! :)) that has some beautiful delicate pieces and found this necklace:
I LOVE IT, it’s so delicate and perfect, 3 little circles that represent my 3 babies (Kadin, Keiren and Andy) and since Pat was feeling generous he also let me have this beautiful ring, This is my glamorous “In Memory”.